Thoughts About The Cuckold Hotwife Lifestyle

This whole cuckold hotwife lifestyle is interesting to say the least. It takes a certain disposition to accept that your wife has needs and wants that other men can provide, and you cannot. It also takes a certain special relationship to allow that to happen, without ruining the relationship. Let's face it, when you are watching your wife have multiple orgasms while riding another man, making sounds like you never seem to be able get from her, it has an unnerving affect. Or it can. It's something you need to be prepared for, when you make that first time happen.

But...it can also be the most erotic, sexiest, most exciting moment of your sex life. It can give you a hard-on that will feel like a tree between your legs and it can make you horny for her for weeks afterwards. And...surprisingly enough, it can make her horny for you too, even if you think he has satisfied all her needs.

It's important to make sure you separate, and keep separated the emotional needs from the sexual needs of both you and your wife, while you are in a hotwife-bull-cuckold situation. Yes, she has sexual needs, and yes, he is going to satisfy those, but she also has emotional needs, that's where you come in. You both need to remember, it is sex, not love, it is his cock, and his tongue that is making her cum and cum...not his love for her, or her for him.

I suppose it is possible for a hotwife to fall for a lover, and I'm sure it happens on occasion. But it shouldn't. Not if you are in it for the right reasons. Make sure you are comfortable with each other, and secure with your feelings for each other before you ever start. Melissa and I have. We both love each other immeasurably, and have been together for years, and I have no doubt that will continue. If she was going to leave me for one of her bulls, that would have likely happened long before now.

But she is not looking for love, or my replacement. We do the hotwife cuckold stuff because it is a huge turn-on for both of us. Maybe even more for me than it is for her, but that might just be me thinking that. Whatever, it is our fantasy made real, and we both enjoy it, without spending too much time disecting it, or questioning it. I love to watch her with another man, and she loves to put on a show for me, while experiencing the excitement and sexual fun that comes from a new, strange sex partner. We dabble in a little humilation, a little cuckolding, and a little swinging, where it is MFM, although we have played with women and with other couples. In the end, we have found, that what we like best, is the MFM variety, with me often the cuck. A single guy is a lot less complicated than a couple, probably because it comes without the added wants and needs of the fourth person. Plus, I am always distracted by what Melissa is doing, which often leaves the other woman a little short changed from me. For me, the experiences always leave me loving Melissa even more than I thought possible. For her, the experiences, beyond the orgasms and sexual satisfaction, always leave her feeling happy she made me happy, and typically mean she gets treated like a princess for weeks following....why wouldn't she like that? LOL

I know that many of you think the same way, and many of you had enjoyed similar experiences to ours. I'm happy for you, because, if it turns you on, you are having experiences that many never know exist. If it is at this point only a fantasy, I suggest you think it through, talk it over with your significant other, and see where it leads. These days, the internet is a veritable smorgasbord of places to meet like minded people, and there are many publications and websites that can help you enjoy and endulge in the hotwife-cuckold lifestyle. In fact, several of them are in my sidebars, like Adult Friendfinder, and the many e-books listed in the helpful links section. But you don't have to use them, you can just play it by ear, and see what happens. You might know a guy who would be suitable, although, I don't recommend you ask your friends to fuck your wife, that can be OK, but it can also be awkward. Better to keep those friends separate from you fuck-buddy friends....

Everyone has their own particular fantasies and fetishes. Some folks are really into bondage, some into BDSM, some into swinging with groups, orgies and similar activities, some like to watch there wives with other women, and some men like to have other women that their wives don't know about. Whatever it is, whatever your fantasy, it is up to you to decide if it is going to be a fantasy or a reality. Just make sure you think it through completely, the ramifications can be rewarding and fun, or they can become a problem. Don't let it become a problem.

So what about you? Have you tried any of this stuff yet, or is it still a fantasy? Does your wife share your fantasy? Does your husband?